"It wasn't me..."

Sometimes we purposely play the victim's role. To simply say, "it's not my fault. It's his/her/the situation/the system/the government's fault."
Because it is the ultimate excuse to not do anything, to stop trying even before you start, to just throw your hands up and surrender.
And you don't even get blamed for it. And why is that ? Because as a 'victim', you are the one who got hurt. The one who ended up being alone. The one who was left with a broken heart. The one who was wronged.
Maybe it's true. Maybe you are hurt and wronged, maybe you are alone right now and maybe you are broken hearted. Or maybe it makes you feel good to have other people pity you and shower you with comforts. Drawing attention from other people and words of encouragement and also justification for your 'suffering'. It feels kinda ironic that we need others to tell us that we are a 'victim'.

The only problem is that I think it's addictive. Yes, being a 'victim' is addictive.
A victim's role gives such a comfort on putting the blame on other people that you will feel that you are ultimately blameless for everything.
This is really a case where the weak is actually the strong.

So maybe the next time that you feel your life is miserable, maybe you can start to see that perhaps its not the fault of none other than yourself. Perhaps.

Accepting is the first step.